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Sunday, December 2, 2012

A story of porn addiction

Thanks to Robert Weiss for this excerpt from his blog

Sex Addiction, Paraphilias, and Offending… Oh My!


Max grew up in a conservative, upper-middle class household in which sex was never discussed. As this was before the advent of the Internet, his “knowledge” of sex was limited to the locker room braggadocio of his friends and a few pictures glimpsed in random magazines. When Max was in his mid-twenties, the Internet arrived, and with it came easy access to pornography. Intrigued, he bought a home computer and signed up for Internet access – provided by a screechy dial-up modem. He set up his personal email account, even though none of his friends or family as yet had email, and then he went looking for porn, which was not hard to find.
As the first image slowly downloaded, revealing itself one digital line at a time, Max felt as if he’d injected himself with a large dose of adrenaline. Before he realized it, he was hooked, spending hours each night downloading image after image, and with each new image he got a fresh jolt of adrenaline (though none of those jolts were as big as the first one). And then it happened. On one of Max’s favorite websites a clothed but still sexy image of a minor popped up. That image, even with clothes, provided a rush that was bigger than any he’d previously experienced, and even though he’d never really thought about or fantasized about sex with a minor, he suddenly wanted more. He sent an email to the site’s webmaster, asking if there were other pictures of the model. The webmaster politely replied that he didn’t have any on the website since the model was “probably underage,” but if Max was looking for that sort of thing he could find it by following X, Y, and Z instructions.
Suddenly, Max was hooked on images of teenagers – with each new image reinforcing his constant adrenaline high. His non-paraphilic, non-offending sex addiction had progressed to paraphilia and offending. As this happened, he withdrew socially, ignoring friends and social engagements in favor Internet porn. He also began to drink heavily as a way to cope with the guilt he felt about his sexual behavior. Within a year he was locked in a downwardly spiraling cycle of illegal porn and alcohol – miserable, but unable to stop. And eventually the images weren’t enough. Max started fantasizing about “seducing” a minor, and then he started “cruising” a notorious boulevard, looking for prostitutes and picking up any that appeared to be underage. Inevitably, he was arrested and the full extent of his behavior was discovered.

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